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In the U.S. nearly 1.5 million girls and boys in high school have admitted to being physically abused by someone they are intimately involved with in the last year. For Native American youth, more than 40% of them have experienced two or more acts of violence by the age of 18. We also know Native American women in the United States experience the highest rates of sexual assault in the country.
According to the U.S. Department of Justice, nearly half of all Native American women have been raped, beaten, or stalked by an intimate partner; one in three will be raped in their lifetime; and on some reservations, women are murdered at a rate 10 times higher than the national average . In Native communities 64% of suicides are committed by Native American youth ages 10-24 years old.
All the static’s above are important data that can help us to address Teen Dating Violence so we as people can help youth understand what dating violence is and what it leads up to. Dating violence is about power and control, and it’s about making a choice to control their partners everyday activity. Teen Dating Violence is defined as any dating relationship in adolescents that results in physical, sexual, psychological/emotional abuse in the relationship. An abusive partner will think that they have every right to control their partners everyday life from what they do, who they see and how they behave. This is how they maintain power and control over their partner.
Teen dating violence can involve one or more types of abuse, such as:
It is important that we know what to look for in a young person’s relationship because what may look like an unhealthy relationship to you won’t look like that to the victim. This is because their perpetrator will manipulate them into thinking this is how a relationship works. Early violence in adolescent relationships set the building blocks for an unhealthy lifestyle and future problems. This includes future relationship issues which can be intimate partner violence and sexual violence perpetration throughout life. In short if they experience this early, they run the risk of falling into a lifetime cycle of abuse.
When you are in an abusive relationship, you may feel depressed, anxious, fearful, ashamed, or guilty. You may even feel you did something wrong to be treated bad, saying it was your fault and telling yourself and others that you deserved it. What every teen or young person needs to understand that no one deserves to be treated that way and it is not your fault. It is the one who is hurting you who is at fault. YOU deserve to be treated with love and respect. Remember love isn’t supposed to hurt.
Teen dating violence can impact a young person’s life, from both sides as a victim and a perpetrator. The best way to prevent this lifestyle is to teach our young people about healthy relationships and what it looks like and helping them learn to express their emotions and communication skills in an effective way. You can also help with preventing this lifestyle by reaching out to your child, grandchild, niece, nephew or any young person in your life and talk to them about their relationships and helping them understand what to look for in an unhealthy relationship.
For the young people, remember that you should always feel respected and safe in your relationships and you deserve to have a healthy relationship. If you’re ever in a place you feel is unsafe or you know of someone that is in an unhealthy relationship, reach out to someone that you feel safe with or contact someone in your community that can help you. You are never alone in this situation and there are always resources and people out there to help you.
Southern Ute Victim Services
Hours: Available 24/7
SUVS Office: 970-563-0245
After Hours Call Dispatch: 970-563-4401
Southern Ute Police Department
Hours: 8am – 5pm M-F
SUPD Office: 970-563-0246
SUPD Dispatch: 970-563-4401
Emergency Call: 911
Ignacio Out & Equal Alliance
Address: P.O Box 465 Ignacio, CO 81137
Phone number: 970-306-3555
Administrative Office: 970-247-4374
24/7 Hotline: 970-247-9619
Sexual Assault Services Organization (SASO)
24/7 Crisis Hotline: 970-247-5400
Four Corners Rainbow Youth Center
Ignacio Police Department
IPD Office: 970-563-4206
Emergency Call: 911
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
Hours: Available 24 hours
StrongHearts Native Helpline
Is a safe domestic, dating and sexual violence helpline for American Indians and Alaska Natives, offering culturally appropriate support and advocacy, anonymous and confidential.
Hours: Daily, 7am-10pm CST
National Domestic Violence Hotline
Advocates are available 24/7
Love Is Respect
They offer confidential support for teens, young adults, and their loved ones seeking help, resources, or information related to healthy relationships and dating abuse in the U.S.
Advocates are available 24/7
Text: LOVEIS to 22522
Call: 1-866-331-9474 or 800-787-3224