So how do we achieve long term happiness? Why can’t I just eat donuts whenever I find myself unhappy and that would be the answer to my problem? What is the secret recipe to happiness?

Well, my friends and family, I have some exciting news for you. Drum roll please …

I have found … Some answers. Now, happiness depends on the individual and is shaped by numerous factors. However, there are a few tips that influence your happiness that you may find helpful.

What is emotional agility? It is basically the right to be unhappy. Being able to navigate your thoughts and emotions with self-compassion and acceptance. Accepting that it’s okay to not be happy all the time. Instead of burying uncomfortable feelings deep down, you can take the mask off and recognize the emotions you are feeling with openness, curiosity, and self-compassion. When we have emotional agility we can gain control, be in tune with ourselves and ultimately grow.

Have you ever heard of the term “social fitness”? And I know what you’re thinking, social fitness is just getting exercise around people. Great. Now I must get sweaty around people to be happy?

No, I’m not cruel. However, we need social connections. A Harvard study surrounding adult development found that the quality of our relationships is the single strongest predictor of lifelong happiness and physical health. Basically, treat your social life like a workout. Maintain close friendships, check in on family, participate in community events, or just say hi to your neighbor; it helps create a supportive community environment.

And that leads me into culture. Being rooted in culture provides a profound sense of belonging. By staying connected to your culture you can heal through tradition. Culture allows us to maintain a strong sense of identity which has been found to help create emotional stability. With culture we can create a deep community connection that is greatly linked to higher levels of resilience, life satisfaction, and calmness. So, participate in those community events, drag your friends or family with you, and stay connected.

Here’s to your good health!

It’s okay not to feel okay.

If you or someone you know has been struggling with their emotions, behaviors, or substance use please reach out to us. We can help you find appropriate tools and services that could help you overcome obstacles in your life. We are here for you. Please contact the Southern Ute Behavioral Health Division at 970-563-5700 for more information or to set up an appointment to see a counselor or therapist.

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